So yesterday I said goodbye to a very special woman in my life.
Dorothy or Dot was my mother in law – and had been a large part of my life for the last 21 years. I married her eldest son, who had always said he would never get married and gave her the one thing she so desperately wanted, my beautiful daughter and her only granddaughter.
Dot was a character, she always spoke her mind, but never meant to hurt anyone’s feelings. She was your typical housewife in that she did everything for her husband and two boys, they really were her world.
As we said our goodbyes, both of her boys spoke well and she would have been so proud of them. For my part I looked after everyone both before, during and after the service and during the gathering at the house.
She leaves a gap that can never be filled, and no one would ever dare try.
I’ve had a bit of a year (or two years) and the first new thing I’ve learnt is that life really is too short!!
I am determined to live my life to the highest level that I can, nothing is beyond me. I will celebrate life and make sure that I look after me and my family.
So I will be concentrating on my health and well-being, as well as making sure that my work life balance is right, and that I have a wonderful environment for my family to live in.
My final point is that none of us know how long we have, so we need to do things and say things without hesitation, my wonderful husband has always said that we should live our lives and have no regrets, so tell that person how you feel and take the jump and make that decision.
So people, I hope those of you that read my ramblings are still there, I know it’s been a while.
Sometimes you just have to take a step back from life to allow yourself to deal with what life is throwing at you. This is exactly where I have been for the last few weeks.
You may or may not know that I have been suffering from pains in my hands for months – well not ok g after Christmas the pain got so bad that I had to basically put my life on hold!!! I had to stop going to the gym (who knew 12 months ago that would be an issue!!!!), work was affected and I couldn’t drive (so lost my independence).
I now have a diagnosis of inflamed arthritis (which can also be known as rheumatoid arthritis) and am about to start on some tablets which will hopefully help with the pain.
I’ve also decided to return to the gym as not going is messing with my head, so back I go. I’ve also messed about with diet, but have decided that I need to stop looking for a wonder cure and just eat better, how this will look I don’t know yet, but it will become clear over time.
Life has thrown me a few curve balls over the last six months and I’ve dealt with them all, so have to give myself credit for that.
Looking forward – I have four holidays, two concerts and a wedding to look forward to!
I’ll post more soon!!!!!
So I’m now a year into my journey for the newer healthier me. I could post that it’s been smooth all year but I you’ve read any of my other blog posts, or the many social media posts I’ve made, you’d know that just isn’t true.
My year has been up and down, but the one thing I am determined to do this year is to accept that actually I’ve done ok. I’m terrible at taking compliments but this year I’m going to embrace the successes I have and use them to inspire me to move forward.
So moving forward the plan is to stay with my personal trainer (@tommarchpt on Instagram), and get my diet under control.
In order to do that I’ve decided to try slimming world again (this is my sixth or seventh attempt) – and I have to say that I’ve struggled with it this week. However I will face the scales on Thursday and deal with whatever they say.
My main goal this year is to lose weight and tone up….but I also need to sort out my diabetes, I made great steps towards this last year but there is so much more to be done.
Finally, I haven’t really made New Years resolutions this year, they are life goals, and I will achieve them, even though it may take some time. What about you????
So social media has taken over most of our lives, we all have accounts on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram to name a few.
I’ve had two Instagram accounts for a while – mainly because one was for my weight loss journey and it was a private one for me. However, over the last year I have become more confident or maybe just less worried about what people think, and I’ve opened my Instagram account to anyone.
Whilst I’ve always been happy to post on Facebook and Twitter, Instagram is something that I’ve only recently started posting to on a regular basis.
Anyone that already follows me will know that it’s generally bad selfies after the gym, interspersed with weigh ins and progress pics. In 2019 I’ve decided to only have one account – so it will be full of lots more variety. As I intend to blog more, my Instagram will also be linked to what I post on here too.
I have been encouraged to start posting live stories on Instagram and in 2019 I may give it a go….if you choose to watch bear with me, I think it’ll take a few goes to get it right!
So if you don’t follow me but want to please go to Instagram and look up @linkypie2018.
All that’s left for me to say is that I hope you all have a great festive season and an even better new year. See you in 2019!!!!!!!
Sometimes our minds definitely get on the way of what we want to do. It can be that we are stubborn or that we don’t believe in ourselves but the basis of most of our issues are usually based within our mind.
I’ve spent the last few years battling with my mind – never being sure that I was good enough! This year something changed, I decided that I wanted to make some changes and that’s exactly what I did.
The two women you see in the picture above have very different outlooks on life, the woman on the left was full of can’t do so won’t do, the woman on the right is very much, not sure if I can do but will give it a try.
An example of how my attitude has changed this year…..yesterday I was sitting on a bus in traffic and decided that I would get off and walk to my destination instead, it wasn’t far , but the old me would have stayed on the bus and got a later train! Not massive steps but a change in attitude all the same.
In the last year I have taken steps to change my life – mainly around getting healthy and just this morning finished the 5th of 5 sessions with my PT this week. In December of last year it would have been a nice thought but that’s all it would have been.
So before I leave you, let me pose a question what does your mind stop you from doing?
So as soon as I hear the word Barcelona I have a picture in my head of Freddy Mercury and Montserrat Caballe´. I amtravelling to Barcelona with hubby on a whirlwind city break. When I say whirlwind it really isn’t an understatement, we arrive in Barcelona at approx 2100 on Friday and fly home at 1100 on Sunday.
We’re flying EasyJet – I know that some people don’t like the budget airlines but I have to say for trips to Europe we have never had any problems with either EasyJet or Ryanair. It’s not luxury travel in any way, but as we generally eat at the airport anyway we don’t need any of the niceties that you would get when flying long haul. We left Luton under the cover of fog, so the flight was slightly delayed but it’s not the end of the world.
The whole trip was booked with easyJet and was very economical, again the hotel appears to be basic, but it’s only a base so as long as it’s clean, I’ll be happy.
So the plans for the weekend……as is the custom when we go to a new place, the first thing we are going to do tonight is the hop on, hop off sightseeing bus! This is a great way to see lots of the sights when you are time limited (as we most definitely are this weekend). That will be followed by something else that is generally common practice on our trips around the world….FOOTBALL…
My hubby is an absolute football nut, it has been said that if two ants were kicking a grain of rice around he would stop to watch. As a result I have watched football all round the UK at all levels of the football pyramid, in Northern Ireland, Poland and even in my happy place Dubai, in the United Arab Emirates. On this trip we will be going to see Barcelona, but not the first team and not at the Camp Nou, (we chose to travel on an international break weekend.) Instead we are going to watch Barcelona B at the Miniestadi, as you would expect this is Barcelona’s second team and we are hoping to see some of the talent of the future. As you would expect this is much more budget friendly than if we were to attend a first team match – in fact it has cost us 21 euros for both tickets.
After that we’ll find somewhere nice to have dinner and sample some of the local hospitality and i suspect some people watching will take place too.
Before you all groan and say that it’s still November…this post isn’t what you may think!
We are fast approaching the festive season, and I’ll be honest and say I am one of those people who love it – and that I drive my family mad for weeks beforehand. However, there are people who aren’t looking forward to it – and not just because they are the modern day grinch!
Sometimes I think we need to be aware that Christmas can be a very sad and lonely time for people, it can bring back memories both happy and sad. It can be that they have lost someone recently or many years ago, or just that Christmas doesn’t invoke good memories.
Sometimes we are so full of the Christmas spirit, they we don’t see what others are going through, and they may not admit how they are actually feeling for fear of putting a downer on the festivities.
So although I admit I’ll be that annoying person with Christmas music on in November – I will also be looking out for those around me , who might need a hug or just a moment…anyone who knows me, if this is you please shout and those who don’t know me – feel free to take a virtual hug if you need one.
Sometimes in life you need to take a step back and evaluate your life. It’s all very well trying to be superwoman and do everything to please everyone, but sometimes, you need to be a little selfish and do what is right for you.
We’re all guilty of over committing to things and then not wanting to disappoint someone, and we all have so many roles in our lives.
Sometimes I think this makes us forget who we are, we are always someone’s wife, someone’s mum, someone’s daughter, someone’s friend, someone’s boss, someone’s employee and the list goes on.
My journey over the past nine months has made me start to question what I do and why I do it…and as a result some decisions need to be made.
I shall be reviewing my commitments over the coming days and anything that I don’t believe brings value to my life will be chopped!
My journey isn’t only about weight loss or health, it’s a journey of transformation physically, spiritually and mentally.
So this has been a bit of a ramble and my next post will be back to making a little more sense (or not as the case may be).
I’ll leave you with a question – do you prioritise value in your roles or do you try to be all things to all people?
So I’ve finally managed to sit down and write a post. I’ve missed writing these as they are a great way to get all of my jumbled thoughts out of my head.
So let’s talk about my progress on my health journey….started in January and although I’ve made progress – not as much as I would like.
Is the image on the left was taken on 1st January 2018 and the one on the right was taken on October 4th 2018. There is a clear difference I’m sure you will agree!!!
So these two images were both taken in Dubai – which we all know is my happy place. Left hand one December 2017, right hand one October 2018.
My journey has been anything but smooth, with more twists and turns than a rollercoaster, but as I’m sure you’ll agree that is life!!!!
The numbers aren’t as great as I would have liked – we are now 42 weeks in and I’ve only lost 25 lbs – but I’ll take that. It’s a great start!
Previously I would have given up long ago – but I’m still here and plodding along.
My journey continues and I will get to my goal – although maybe a bit slower than originally planned.
This year has thrown me plenty of curve balls – but I’ve survived.
What this year has shown me is that I have some very good friends who care for me – something I wasn’t always so sure about.
I’ve also had some great adventures this year and have many more planned, I will post more and hope that you will be here reading.
Sometimes you need to take a step back and look at where you are, and where you want to be. I’m on a journey to lose weight and get healthy, and I’m getting there slowly but surely….and sometimes I need to realise that it’s ok to take it slow.
I’ve lost weight quickly before and it’s come straight back on and I’ve added some. However this time, there is something inside that is different, I really want this to happen. It’s not all about the weight loss- my main reason was to get healthy and to try and reverse some of the damage that I have done to my body.
Since I began this journey in January, I have lost weight, dropped dress sizes and most importantly I no longer have to take insulin for my diabetes. This is a major step forward in my journey to be healthy, but is only a stepping stone to my end goal.
This post probably doesn’t make a whole lot of sense but it’s just what was in my head tonight and I wanted to get it down.
Have a great week all – whatever you do – do your best and have fun!